Clutter - Declutter - Living With a Hoarder?

The sheer disarray insults my eye, my intelligenceReading around the subject of clutter, psychologists
and my being. I feel buried under piles of paper, tools,sort and classify these behaviours in to personality
computer parts, building materials and discardedtypes. These personality tendencies are labelled as
furniture. It overwhelms me - I feel paralysed by thethe Perfectionist the Sentimentalist, the Deferrer and
clutter at times.the Rebel. Thankfully suggestions are offered as to
Is that how you feel? Do you live with a hoarder?how to lead each type to your desired result.
You may have lived day to day for a lifetime and notMy question would be: What to do when they
given it a second thought. Keeping your head downappear as all four rolled into one?
and focused on your own interests itis possible toHoarding, it seems may be attributed to a lack of
operate in a less than optimum environment. That'ssomething in childhood or emotional support in
how we manage to put up with clutter in our lives.adolescence. Leastways it connects with a need to
To the hoarder they are our lifetime memories, ourbuild up a reserve of resources in case of times of
treasured possessions - our nostalgia. Pastlack.
experiences instil the behaviour to hang on to thoseWhen we come up against conflict in our thinking we
memories - it is not enough to carry them withincan try to understand the other person's viewpoint.
yourself. These experiences set up behaviours inHowever, had it been framed as storing the harvest
which they feel compelled to gather and collect. Theyfor the winter, would that not be prudent?
are seemingly the sum total of our lives thus far.When you get down to analysing and searching for
What need is served by owning (among so manyan answer to 'their' hoarding tendencies, you might
other things) 25 electrical extension leads and 300end up turning the spotlight on yourself too.
assorted pens and pencils in this compulsive hoardingWhat do you struggle to part with?
behaviour? Chances are that the extension leads areWhat do you easily throw away?
at the bottom of a huge pile of assorted jumble inWhat decision making process do you employ?
the spare room and most of the pens are so oldWhat might your ability to throw things away easily
they have dried up when you come to use them.say about you?
The preferred scenario, to my way of thinking is aDo you need more order, space, clarity and energy in
spare extension lead in the 'emergency spares'your environment ...or your life? Then you need to
cupboard/closet and a few writing implements in theadopt the right mental attitude to get the job done
office drawer or desk.and take action. Personally I am well on my way to
The fact is somewhere inside each of us I suspectde-cluttering my space, my life and my thinking. It is
there is a hoarder - and yet somehow we claim thatonly a small part of maintaining my goal of happiness.
our own obsessions are different.